When you play a video game, there are a lot of NPCs. They come and say something. You don’t care. You don’t even read, you just tap the skip button. But in real life, when somebody comes and says something about you, you take it personally and spend a lot of time thinking about what they said.
Can’t you think they like NPC. What is so hard about it? They both are the same. They just talk about you. Nobody is helping you. Nobody, in video games they do their work , same in real life. They just talk about you. That’s their only role in your life.
In my environment, I saw different things. Like when a person stays home all day, they tell him to go out. If somebody spent their time out of home, playing games they told him to study. When somebody is studying, they tell him that you won’t get a job, do some work in the field or any little labor. When somebody is doing work they tell him to study. And the whole cycle runs.
“People say that you should be happy with what you have but they also say that you always think bigger.
They say that you don’t have time but also they say that good things take time.
They say if you love a person, fight for him/her but they also say that if it’s true love then let them go.”
Even if you start to listen to them they give more than one preference on the same thing. The truth is that it is just their perspective.
Nobody knows your struggle and your effort. You just show your one side to them. They don’t know properly about you. They give you their perspective just by watching one side of you. The truth is people just wanna change other’s lives. They can’t help change themselves so they decided to destroy the other.
If you want to stop listening to people. You have to do one of the hardest things. Like you don’t wanna focus on their demotivated things, then you also have to stop focusing on things in which they admire you. My math teacher once said that the most foolish is the one who will get happy at his admiration. If you hear the admiration, then you’ll definitely hear the insults and their non-wanted perspectives. You focus on both things. If you have to listen, hear it and then go out in a loud big room, close the door and then say: “ I don’t care”.
I am not saying that you should not listen. It is the rarest gift in today’s world. Listen to their sorrows and be with them. Don’t say that you should have done this or that. Nobody cares. Be with them. But most people don’t do this. If you have this quality, you’re good. And I know only these kinds of people are reading this. They don’t give perspectives but they hear.
The best advice somebody can give is to do what you wanna do. Clarity only comes when you think and solve your problem on your own. It’s true nobody can do everything by his own. So when you take advice, make sure it is your choice to take advice. If it works out then be thankful to that person, if it doesn’t then it is your mistake for choosing that advice. And yeah I am also giving advice. I don’t care if you’ll listen to me but make sure that you’ll listen to yourself.
