How is it possible that most of the nice people we know get into relationship with toxic ones?
Why do these nicer ones choose the toxic ones?
Here is the answer:
The nice ones do not choose them.
It is the toxic people who select the nicest people.
And ensure they choose them.
That’s their game-plan.
It is the toxic ones who get attracted to these kind, sweet natured, one of a kind, caring souls.
You know Why?
Well, who else can tolerate their shit! Their drama that they put up for their need of attention.
They need someone to soak up all that they have made up in their dreamy land, and be in spotlight constantly.
So,
How do they do make nice people to choose them?
You see these toxic people want to feel validated.
They seek Attention all around the clock.
They don’t want to be seen for how pathetic they are and all those horrible shades born out of their constant self centeredness.
So they use this tactic called as mirroring.
They mirror your kindness.
They Appear to be helping.
Seem caring.
Shower you with love.
And everything that you are to everybody else.
They observe you.
And pick everything that you are.
That’s their bait.
And nice people just fall for it.
There is another trap after being in relationship.
People call it understanding – one of the fundamental requirements in relationship right.
So here is what happens: this nicer person tries to be understanding in the relationship by brushing off the other person’s toxicity as one of the negative traits to be overlooked.
You know a person can have both positive and negative traits and we should accept both in relationship and all that.
Well, No.
Understanding in relationship means, knowing what are their wants and needs, to know their habits, such that you can read the persons thoughts to know him or her better and tread the relationship smoothly.
And along the path if you get to know that they have these toxic traits, it is not meant to be tolerated.
you are suppose to get off that boat!
And RUN…
