Do you ever feel like you are insecure? of your skin? body shape? eye colour? hairs and many more? And most people on social media get be like “do this/ that” you’ve literally tried but it’s not working. Some creators tell to ignore, set boundaries and all but nothing really works.
Well, that’ the reason why you came here.
Hey everyone, this is growth circuit and welcome back to my channel.
Here I’ll be trying to give you a different angle for insecurities. But honestly it’s easy to say, but hard to do, not so hard even. But at the end of the day, feels like these kind of thoughts are limited to imagination, not practical. But it’s not. Before we proceed, id like to tell that I took some thoughts from content creators and AI assistance.
So, let’s get started:
Why are you actually insecure?
Those are just the beauty standards made by society, right? for some standard you are mesmerizing, for some you aren’t! as simple is that. Some standards consider pale skin other consider brown. And what’s disgusting is not the standards, it’s pepole calling it out, making you feel unacceptable. Everyone (mostly) wishes to be acceptable. When I was younger, my cousins were like “Oh, ure as skinny as a matchstick”
at that time I wished I was fat/ fit in their standards so I would not have to tolerate those silly jokes. I wished to be fat, i just wanted to be accepted in their standards!.
Let’s be real
But not everyone see you the same way. Some consider you fit and fine, while others don’t. Some people compliment the thing that you are insecure about, but some people become the reason of insecurity. No one knows what’ right or wrong, then why should you ever be sad? And after all people do not care much about us, most of the times, it’s just us who keeps reminding the brain that we are insecure. As my younger self I also got compliments for my body that I was fit and this was real.
Then how to react?
In such situations your reaction matters more than you think. If you give a normal reaction, that person will stop teasing you for those! but if you reacted like you are annoyed they’ll just continue it. So, it’s so much better to go cold at that time, not savage, no roast, no reaction, just act like you don’t care. Don’t be angry at that time, especially in public places, because it makes you look immature, not dominant.
Have boundaries
Once they call out your insecurities, make fun of them give them a warning and don’t permit that person back in your life unless you really see changes. Because if roles were reversed they would not have given you the chances. Giving chances doesn’t look like you are caring, mature it make your warnings feel empty, people start to take you less serious.
Be ready to bear hatred
When you start to take a stand for yourself those people start to hate you, because nothing else is actually left with them. But that hatred would sometimes become backbiter type also because those people knew that you already have a exit gate for them. So, then you need to be aware. But don’t take a step back.You didn’t create the problem—you exposed it and changed how people respond to you.
The only opinion matters is yours
I’ve already told that how insecure I used to feel. But over time I realised that the only opinion matters is just “mine”. Not my cousin, friend, best friend, classmate, or anyone else. Because those aren’t facts, those are opinions and everyone has their own way to look at the world. So the goal isn’t to change their opinion, it’s not to permit those opinions in. So dear, why would you be changing them? it’s not you problem, it’s their, let them handle their negativity. Because everything that comes from them for others is just their perception and mindset. Just simply leave it.
Final words
Don’t compete just define your own beauty standards. If you feel like something has to change within you do it for yourself, not for someone else. And remember:
Flaws aren’t weakness, they’re signature. ~ DIVA
