Today I want to share something different. The topic is marriage.
Many people believe that marriage is the next level or the second part of life. I also feel that when we meet the person we love, and both of us feel connected, it seems like life is complete. 🤣
But what is the correct age for love or marriage?
I think sometimes both love and life can survive without anyone’s help, because not everyone gets support. In life, we learn many things — respect, caring, understanding others, food, emotions, and relationships
What is Love?
Is love just a spark that happens in one second? No.
Is it because someone is handsome or beautiful, well-settled, and has a good job? That is attraction, not love.
Let’s Talk About Age
Why do we always talk about love stories of people above 23?
Let’s speak about people below 23… even below 18.
In India, the legal age for marriage is 18 for girls. But not all marriages at that age are love marriages. Sometimes it is arranged marriage — for example, a girl is 18 and the man is 28.
Maybe the parents are not educated, but many educated people attend the wedding. Why don’t they speak up?
Will she be happy or not?
Education and Freedom
Some parents allow their children to study in college, but still control their decisions. If the child falls in love, the parents may arrange marriage with a “well-settled” person.
So will she be happy?
Why do we study?
To gain knowledge, explore the world, travel, and become financially independent.
But many students study only in local colleges because their parents are afraid to send them outside. They think it is for protection.
Because of this, some girls don’t know how to travel alone, speak confidently, or live independently. Fear controls them.
But one day, they take the first step. It’s not easy — but it’s important.
Marriage Reality
Now comes marriage. Relatives gather, everything is prepared, the bride looks beautiful with makeup and jewelry.
Sometimes the bride and groom talk for a few days before marriage. Sometimes they are not even allowed to talk.
This is common in middle-class and lower-middle-class families.
Marriage is not easy. There are many responsibilities, preparations, and expectations.
So again, will they be happy?
My Doubt
I have seen many couples. They seem happy, and within one year, they even have a baby. 🤯
But I am confused — are they truly happy, or just adjusting?
Final Thoughts
What is love?
Can a boy and girl live without love? Maybe yes.
But without respect and care, how can they live together?
In previous generations, many couples stayed together without questioning. But today, people want respect. If they don’t get it, they choose to live independently.
The past is past.
Now, both partners study, work, and have ambitions. I don’t focus only on love — I believe respect and care are the most important things in life.
Never compromise on these two.
Always try to understand the other person’s point of view. Even if you disagree, you can create a new understanding together.
That is real connection.
Bye…
