What if i don’t find my one?
Don’t you feel like we live in the constant doubt of who is our “one”? Our one could be defined as the person that understands every single part of your complicated brain, the one who loves you and all the parts that construct you, the one with no “baggage”. But searching for someone perfect isn’t a circle that never ends and just breaks little parts of your soul until you just stop searching and even knowing what you want to search?
We have grown seeing stories where boy meets girl, they fall in love and they are the perfect match at the first attempt, and it’s perfectly normal that as growing up we just want to find the person that can complete the puzzle our heart is. So as we meet people in our lives that can be that piece we start with the silly doubt: Is he the one? Is he the one made exactly for me? So when we finally decide to answer the question we notice something in the other person that makes him not be the one, his baggage, a thing that make us rethink all the relationship and remove the person from our lives just because a little detail and maybe because we are to scared of just falling for someone and being left with the love in your hands.
When we set aside the person the doubts get harder and harder. When we meet someone new, apart from the original doubt comes a new one, what if HE was the one? What if I just took away from my own life the person meant for me? And at that point is where our mind is just a sea of doubts and we are just searching for a boat that come and rescue us.
So my conclusion in this topic would be that I don’t really think this one really exist, it doesn’t exist someone that is perfect, someone with no baggage you just have to find someone that loves you enough to help you unpack. You can’t not be waiting all your life for a universe sign that shows you that he is everything you need and wish, maybe we already know it but we just have to start accepting our feelings how they are and how they come, without wondering who is made for you, instead wonder who is willing to be the best version of themselves for you
