Don’t go bake a whole cake when he returns with breadcrumbs.
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“I miss you.”
This time I stare at the text, trying to feel that warm tingle in my stomach again, but nothing. I have healed so hard, now I firmly believe exes always come back — not because they want you back. They would have never broken up with you in the first place if they truly wanted it to work.
They come back because they want validation. Did I do the right thing? Is my life NOT better without them? Or maybe he’s just shuffling it like a pair of old shorts in his wardrobe, and it happens to be my turn to get rinsed this time.
Here’s what they will tell you, and what I’ve learned it actually means.
1. “I needed space to figure things out.”
What he meant was he needed space from the version of himself that showed up for me. He claims the space was about growth. But real growth doesn’t need to circle back and announce itself to an ex — the fact that he’s texting me about it at midnight is proof it was never just about him. It’s about needing me to see it. And if I can’t provide the validation for him, he will get his needs met somewhere else, by…
