It is time to face what you already know: they are not “just busy,” and you are not “too sensitive.”
At some point, you will have to stop laughing at the stinging jokes, as you will need to stop brushing off the unreturned missed calls.
At some point you will have to reckon with the way your “friends” only seem to show up when they need something. You will need to stop telling yourself that you are being unreasonable.
The fact of the matter is, if you keep having to convince yourself that someone values you, they probably don’t.
“You can’t attract better friends if you are still clinging to the ones that are making you feel small.”
Your friendships, like any other meaningful relationship in your life, should give more than it takes. So, when you find yourself stuck in a loop where you simply give and give and all you get are excuses, then far from being noble, you are simply being depleted.
It gets much worse when you internalize the message that crumbs is the best you can do, because now in your head the definition of friendship includes loneliness, self-doubt, walking on…
