For a decade, Tracy thought she was in love with him.
But what she was really in love with was the feeling of not being punished.
Long before she could name it, her body already knew the choreography:
scan him, read him, pre-empt his reaction, regulate his storms —
and in return, she gets to breathe another day without explosion.
That kind of loop does not form in adulthood.
It is inherited — practice — wired — repeated.
And so when the narcissist entered, he did not feel wrong.
He felt familiar.
He fit the groove her nervous system already knew.
The mind called it love.
The body called it protection.
The truth was neither:
It was a contract.
A soul-level agreement to replay the lesson of power vs. self-possession
until she could do what the younger version of her could not:
Withdraw protection from the taker.
That was the true break — not the day she left his house,
not the day she blocked his number,
not the day she stopped answering his apologies.
The break happened the moment she said internally:
“I am done keeping you safe at the cost of myself.”
That single shift ended the contract.
Narcissists stopped being magnetic not because she “got stronger,”
but because she stopped doing the job that bound her to them.
And now the work begins again — but on a different frequency:
Not guarding against harm —
but training the body to recognize safe love without shrinking.
Because liberation is never cognitive first.
It is nervous-system permission.
Let yourself stop protecting the person who is hurting you.
That is the sentence that unthreads the spell.
If you read this and saw yourself in Tracy’s story —
not because you are weak, but because your nervous system learned to survive through obedience —
this is the exact work I do.
I help women who have left the narcissist **break the nervous-system contract that kept them bonded**
so they stop attracting takers and finally feel safe receiving love without shrinking.
If you want that shift in your own body — not just in your mind —
DM me the word “REWIRE”.
Not for a “chat.”
Not for therapy.
Not for venting.
For the moment you decide:
“I stop protecting the person who is hurting me — even in memory.”
DM **REWIRE** if your body is ready to end that contract for real.
