Let’s talk about intimacy
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The fastest way to destroy a relationship is by simply neglecting what it needs to survive.
I’ve heard people say things like, “You shouldn’t really have needs in a relationship.”
Really think about this.
What about respect?
What about appreciation?
What about reciprocation?
If you are with someone who don’t appreciate you, speak to you disrespectfully, and refuse to reciprocate the effort you put in, how would you feel?
Miserable. Lonely. Questioning why you’re even still there. Eventually, you’d leave. But why?
You have food, water, shelter, the basics. Isn’t this enough?
Of course not. This is because emotional needs are just as essential. You need something more, respect, safety, love, appreciation, partnership.
These aren’t luxuries, these are needs. Having them doesn’t make you needy. It makes you human.
We can’t be in an intimate relationship and pretend we don’t care about what our partner needs to feel safe and valued.
