How emotional neglect in childhood affects our adult relationships
I recently met up with one of my closest friends for drinks after work. We were discussing our past relationships with the opposite sex which is a regular topic in our rotation. And of course in hindsight, everything becomes clearer.
“I just always pick the wrong guys, I don’t know what it is. The guys that treat me badly I’m really attracted to and the ones that are super nice and accommodating to me I think to myself, like why are they being this nice to me and I don’t feel like I deserve it.”
My friend lamented her series of bad relationships and varied assortment of men who treated her badly. Some had even ghosted her without any notice or warning. Definitely there was a pattern there for sure.
Not that I am judging her at all because I certainly know how to pick them. And not in a good way.
I tend to pick out the guys who have been no good for me. My spotty relationship history of a motley crew of guys that resulted in short lived and failed relationships isn’t exactly one to be proud of.
The sad truth is that women who were emotionally neglected in their childhood always felt that love had to be earned and worked for…
