Apparently, many of us, as we call ourselves, are the ‘Gen-Z.’ And we all go through a heavy mental state breakdown over what everyone else might think as meh, but to us, the matter is of deep concern. Our issues range from where the millennial struggles end, and honestly, we have no one to rescue. Some of us may be lucky enough to have people who say — ‘I’m just a call/text away.’ And finally, when you are in utmost need, you realize you cannot call anybody, not because they won’t help, but because you are scared they won’t understand. All you need at that point is a source of comfort where you could be vulnerable and still feel safe. Well, I’ve been there.
Here are a few things I wish to share that kind of worked out for me; hopefully, it may work out for the reader. Pleasure is all mine.
- When I first started going to therapy, I was very skeptical about what I felt and if I was comfortable sharing what was on my mind. I realized it was so hard on me only because, instead of working towards the root cause, I was beating around the bush, and it’s a very normal behaviour. We do this to protect ourselves; maybe we are scared. Identify your root cause of pain. You can only heal your wound when you know where exactly it is and what is wrong.
- I had this habit of starting over when there was a slight mistake in anything. I hated my journal and tore the page when I felt like I didn’t work properly, even the mini mistakes nobody would ever notice in my art made me tear down my creativity. Accept yourself as you are, with your qualities and your flaws. If you don’t accept yourself and always compare yourself to a bar, it would just suffocate you.
- Mental health injury is not the same as physical injury. You see, if your hand gets fractured, everyone would be careful around you; nobody wants to hurt you on purpose. But when you suffer mentally, it’s invisible to others; nobody knows what you are going through. What I learned from this is to express more. Voice your emotions to your close ones; there is no harm in seeking comfort.
- People would judge you for everything you do. I had a constant phobia of everything. I didn’t attend my classes at college, was afraid to talk to people, family, or friends. A great paradox is that I also felt lonely; I didn’t want to be alone. And that tore me down a lot. Now I would say, show up anyway, it is a difficult track, but you have to overcome the fear that has been holding you back.
- I don’t believe a lot in spirituality. Somewhere between an atheist and a religious person. I choose to trust destiny; it holds something good for you. Just keep trusting, if something does not go your way, something better could be waiting ahead. If you fail an opportunity today, you may be worth more. If you are more of a spiritual person, trust God, trust the Universe. If it’s not happy, then it’s not the end yet!
Lastly, it is really OKAY to let your emotions flow. Heal yourself first. You are only capable of spreading love when you love yourselves completely. Let go of things, little or big. Remind yourself to take care of the wonderful soul inside you. Just so that you know, you don’t have to choose; you could be carefree and caring both at the same time. Don’t beat or crush yourself up. You have a life too, and you deserve to live it to your fullest.
