The psychology behind why you stay even after the love has turned into pain.
Let’s be honest. You have practiced what to say in your farewell speech a thousand times. You have already packed your bags in your head, blocked their number and even imagined your glow-up stage when you put an air of mystery to it by posting a mysterious photo of new beginnings on Instagram.
Then they send a “Hey” at 11:42 p.m. and your self-respect starts sending you push-ups so as not to die.
You’re not stupid. You are aware that the relationship is not good to you. You have even said to your friends, I am not coming out this time, with a sense of a person in a life decision and then the next week you end up in the same emotional prison.
Why?
This crazy habit of the human brain not letting go of pain once attached to a person makes us feel special is why this habit is held on to.
It is as though your brain is a hoarder and stashes emotional junk just in case it will become valuable again.
And here’s the funny part:
You are not even staying to love you anymore. You are staying to work out your value.
You will remain to show them that you can make them change. That you are even good enough to be in the company of someone who has already demonstrated that he does not know how to appreciate you. You want to…
