This part is hard. We often hang onto hope, to memories of the good days, to the version of them we wished was real.
But sis, if that relationship made you doubt your worth, question your sanity, or constantly walk on eggshells — that’s not love. That’s survival. And you were not meant to just survive.
You deserve softness. You deserve to be held — not hurt.
I know it’s tempting to check in, reply to one last message, or keep that door slightly open “just in case.”
But love, peace doesn’t live in half-closed doors. Block, mute, unfollow — not out of anger, but out of protection for your own heart. You’re allowed to choose yourself now.
This isn’t about revenge. It’s about healing.
Toxic love makes you forget how radiant you are.
Now’s the time to come home to yourself.
Reclaim your mornings. Dance again. Wear lipstick just because. Journal your thoughts. Take yourself on solo dates. Relearn what lights you up — without anyone dimming your shine.
Wholeness isn’t about someone else completing you. It’s about you remembering… you were never broken.
You’re not weak because you stayed. You’re not stupid because you loved deeply. You’re human.
But now that you’re outside the chaos, look back gently.
- What did you tolerate that you shouldn’t have?
- What needs of yours went unmet?
- What do you never want to settle for again?
Not to shame yourself — but to protect the beautiful heart that still believes in love.
When you’re ready, love will find you. The kind that feels like deep exhale, not emotional rollercoaster.
But first, pour that love into yourself. Set the boundaries you once feared. Speak your truth without apology. Feel safe in your own skin.
And when someone new comes along… you’ll know. Not because of butterflies — but because of peace.
You’re not “too much.” You’re not “hard to love.” You just needed the right kind of love — the kind that doesn’t hurt, hide, or confuse.
You’re allowed to start again.
And this time, it’s going to feel like home.
With all my heart,
Another woman who’s been there — and made it through
